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Unread 09-08-2010, 12:36 AM   #1
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Default Poem to an Alcoholic Husband

I've been wanting to post this for months but have only just gotten internet back at home... Wrote it the night the X left (or, I "threw" him out) in June. Thought it would resonate with you all...

Poem to an alcoholic husband

Sick of promises never kept,
Sick of the lying and disrespect.
Tired of being regarded as a pest
While you give the bar your best.
Sick of the ridicule of all I do,
Never with any help from you.

You're killing yourself, you're killing your life,
Your family, your home, your child, your wife.

I get it, I get it- I've heard it, I know-
You can't help yourself when you have to go.
But you're not being honest to me when you do
And that's the least that I ask of you.
Keep your word, say what you mean,
And answer your phone, for god's sake, please.

I've been waiting on you for over 4 years
And despite everything, I'm still right here.
You're missing it all, it seems you don't care,
And words cut deep, so- beware.
There's only so far that I can bend
Before I am broken and can't snap back again.

Yes, I know- you work hard every day
And I get that you need time to play.
But we're here too and we need some time
But when you're here you're out of dimes.
You've spent yourself on everyone else,
Leaving us in the dust of ignored neglect.

And can I say anything? No, not at all.
You're pissed off if I so much as call.
You come home in a rage of tables turned,
And I'd think that by now you'd learned:
It's not nice to treat me that way,
And I remember every cruel word that you say.

I am more than a laundress, a cook and a mother-
I am your equal, your wife, but not your lover.

You have no room left for love, for respect or consideration;
You're too busy stumbling in your fog of intoxication.
And yet, you sleep soundly, passed out from Crown
And I'm left to stew awake before I even lay down.
But you'll wake up in the morning and think it's all alright.
How convenient to forget the degradation of the night.

It has to stop before you lose everything you love-
We are here waiting, praying that it does.

-Melissa D
-June 2010
 
 
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Unread 09-08-2010, 10:42 AM   #2
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It is amazing how a substance can evoke such strong emotions. This is really powerful, and I am sure it will impact others here! Thank You for sharing!
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Unread 09-08-2010, 11:20 AM   #3
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This is an amazing poem. I want to print it out and hand it to my husband. Amazing.
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Unread 09-08-2010, 09:28 PM   #4
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Great poem Melissa!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Unread 09-10-2010, 07:48 PM   #5
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well said - WOW ! Thank you for sharing !
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Unread 02-18-2011, 12:18 AM   #6
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Wow. This poem is a true testament of so many people's feelings.
Your emotion is so deeply felt and your passion so easily resonated with anyone who is or has known an alcoholic. Although it may sound odd to say its beautiful.,...I think its beautiful. Because it speaks truth, it asks questions, it begs for actions. To be able to express the broad range of consequences is genius....and it so wisely sums up the affects....the hurt, the pain, the loneliness, the disrespect, the neglect, the burden, the worry, the anxiety, the mistrust, the love you have.....the total affects that this disease can have on a family. Even on one person....its incredible, the damage that can be done, and the wounds this disease creates.

Kudos to you Melissa, for saying what so many people feel and think, but often are afraid to acknowledge or accept....and most of all, to relay to the disease. The disease NEEDS to hear this. And the disease does deserve a last shot...to contribute honest emotions to a family once again.

I hope that your words left an impact....a permanent impact on your husband. Not so much to feel guilt.....but to realize he has become a disease....and that you are waiting for HIM- to come back, and doing so with open hearts & open arms. Thank you so much for sharing this.
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Unread 03-03-2011, 11:33 AM   #7
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You say it all in this one poem.
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Unread 03-08-2011, 11:42 AM   #8
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Wow .... Thank you so very much. Words can not say how much I appreciated you posting that.
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Unread 03-10-2011, 02:58 AM   #9
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i liked that
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Thank you so much for posting this. I hope you we're able to find peace in your marriage.
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