Starting Suboxone

[AliceM]

Thank you to NancyB and okie believe I have those names right. With your help was able to get my daughter started yesterday on Suboxone. Will keep you posted on how things progress. Such mixed emotions, hopeful, worried, but scared this won't work. She appears very committed though and I am going to try to focus on some projects I need to complete and let her focus on her recovery. Will keep you posted on her progress. Thanks again... its good to know I am not alone.

[NancyB]

Hi Alice! I was wondering how things were going. That's such great news! So much better than her having to wait almost 2 weeks to start.

Please let us know if you or your daughter have any questions. She might want to think about joining us here too. She can post or come to chat or both. Support is vital during the whole process.

You make sure you take care of you.

Nancy

[AliceM]

Will do!!! I think she would benefit from the chat. Everyone is so supportive

[okie]

Good to hear that she got help sooner!!
Hope it goes well!

[AliceM]

Thank you! Reading others stories to help through these early days. Keep us in your thoughts and prayers

[AliceM]

Just wanted to give an update....First month was rough. Many challenges with life changes. Did well for first couple of weeks then break up with boyfriend sent her back hiding from the pain and she relapsed. Hit and miss for the rest of the month then got back into sub doc again. They were wonderful talked about how to deal with life stress and we have a week under our belts again taking the sub as directed. Still an everyday struggle but she is sticking with it and taking one day at a time. Keep us in your thoughts and prayers.

Alice

[NancyB]

Hi Alice, I'm glad to hear that she's back on track now. Hopefully she'll use the suggestions on how to deal with stress. Is she in any regular counseling? Would she want to try that for a while to gain more tools?

Thank you for the update. How are YOU doing?

Nancy

[AliceM]

I am doing ok other than her accusations that she is being treated as a child. I own the car she drives and I have told her unless I see her take the medicine once a day no car for the day. This should be a very simple exercise pill in mouth, wait to dissolve, and off she can go for the day. Somehow this always turns into a big scene though with her saying I am a control freak. This plan was discussed with her sub doc who felt this was a good idea because being able to drive the car is a privledge (I currently am still paying the car payment and insurance). She insists she would take it but this is how the relapse occurred last month; her walking in the other room with it and I am pretty sure flushing it. Today after the latest scene I told her I was not going to be talked to that way anymore, she either took the sub and went on about her day driving the car or if she threw a fit I would leave her dose for her to take as she desires but she would not be driving.
On a more positive note I received a call from a friend of hers mother. The friend is very deep in her addiction now and saw my daughter out and how well she was doing and asked how she had gotten out of the whole scene. My daughter talked to her about Sub and what a positive change it had made in her life, gave her the number of the doctor she was seeing and encouraged her to call to get help. I spoke with the mother for a long time and her friend now has an appt next week to hopefully get started with treatment. I was very happy to know someone had noticed the positive changes she has been making.
As for therapy, nonexistent at this point, we have discussed how important it is but she is of the mind set been there done that didn't work whats the point. She does need to learn some tools for coping any other suggestions with her resistance to therapy? Have given her different things to read at times which she does read and she is beginning to exercise more when she is stressed out. Any thoughts would be appreciated. Nice to hear back from you Nancy!

Alice

[NancyB]

Hi Alice, I'm glad you stood your ground with the driving privileges. You're not being a control freak - it's your car, your insurance. Hopefully she's lightened up on that.

That's great that she spoke with her friend about her treatment. It must have given her a little boost of self esteem hearing that someone noticed how well she's doing.

Even though she's 'been there, done that' with therapy, maybe by approaching it that she can try a different therapist - and it does not even have to be an addiction counselor - that might be an incentive. Someone who is well versed in CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) would be good to look into. And you can stress that she's going to therapy to learn new coping skills and not to dredge up the past. Oftentimes that's one of the reasons people are reluctant to enter or return to therapy. She could work on finding a therapist who will work with her and her goals - not dictating to her.

It's good that she recognizes that she need she needs to address the stress and exercise is a great way.

Please check back when you can.

Nancy